From the first family book "Mom is the Original Teacher" in 2007 to the newly published "Don't Separate Love", the role of writer Cai Yuqing has been promoted from mother to "Zu'era".
Even though she was about to enter 60, she faced the word "old" which is more profound than the same person and said frankly, "Old, it's great." Because after washing the drums, she no longer has any irresponsibility in her heart. She has a mature texture about her own understanding and relationship with others. Just like Chen Nian cheese, every day of maturity is a beautiful taste of progress.
"Old" is actually a bit more and more stable
When we were still quarreling with different words such as "lightly mature" and "bigly", Cai Qingqing admitted that he was unreliable and said that "old is a little more practical than many words."
Because old age means taking measures and becoming more stable, and they are friends who have been practicing their life, and they can finally dress up as young as they are mature and do what they want to do.
Cai Xiqing laughed and said that since she was young, she has been a person who has a lot of thoughts, but because she values her mother's job, she has been born from the 21 years since she left home. Even though she has tried every means to realize her dreams in the gaps of life, "but she really has no shame in going to live, and she still waits until her little daughter goes to college."
Not afraid of the empty nesting period, but she can't ask for it
So many parents are afraid of the empty nesting period, but she can't ask for it. After her daughter went to college, when she and her husband Eric designed their new home, they did not take their children seriously. "I think there is no need to empty a room or two rooms for a family to wait for the children to come back." She said that it may be selfish, but she believed that the child's independent personality was determined by the parents. "If they don't let go, they will not be a complete body."
Therefore, for many years, the target of parent-child education work is not only for children, but also for adults to prepare themselves well. Cai Qingqing reminds that even when you are old, your learning cannot be interrupted. "When a person is very serious, his heart will be more stable."
Dreaming, just don't lose your pensionSecondly, don't be afraid to pursue dreams. Cai Qingqing said that everyone will have something they want to do when they are young. If they are just treated as a dream, they seem to be able to wander between dreams and reality in their lives. "In fact, people don't seem to have to be brave enough to realize their dreams when they are young."
She laughed and said that if she had ever wanted to do something and retire one day, "Why can't it? Just go! Two months is also a dream, and half a year is also a dream. Just don't be a dream that doesn't make your pension impossible."
For example, she is in contact with many children in the studio, and her husband Eric often uses her children's songs to practice the piano. "When you are old, you learn things slowly, but compared to our basics, there are some very fast songs, you are responsible for your left hand, I am responsible for your right hand, and the two of them relay, which is also a great thing in life."
The beauty of daily life, whether it is good or not?
is because of constant cultivation and learning, "oldness" has become the imperative of age. "I think the old life span includes how to continue to live a beautiful life I think." Cai Qingqing believes that the beauty of daily life is related to whether the elderly have a good life. "When people get old, they become boring in many places. If you don't have a very beautiful life, it's a kind of old age."
She explained that what she called "beauty" is not luxurious, but that the space is swept, arranged and maintained. To this day, she still has the habit of lighting up the light at night. Even the leftovers can transform new ideas through plates. "I hope I can continue this part of my ability." This is the "great old age" in her heart, and it is also the biggest gift she and Eric want to give their children —— "Let them rest assured."
After the empty nesting period, love really began. In "Two People's Dining Table, Two People's Home", she wrote the two people's lives that reopened from their newlyweds to their children's departure. The lonely empty nesting period was just a respite from her dream and situation. "What we are like is that we may not have had such a long time in the past, but when the children grow up and go out, this love really begins."
They will take a bus to travel on the field, or find time to go out for dinner in their daily lives. Although these are not Hollow-style passionate loves, they are the eternal blessings.
Cai Qingqing said that no matter what is cultivated in marriage is life emotions, revolutionary emotions or the best friendship, they will start recycling after the age of 50, and the most valuable thing is that two people can jointly own this asset and move forward at the same time.
"I really don't like others to teach me: don't be afraid of getting old." Straws, white hair, and loosening. "Those things are not fake at all, but people don't have to be so fond of the age of life." Because everyone's life has passed through youth, "That's fine! Why do you have to chase it all the way? It's fear that makes our hearts blank. ”
Since youth can no longer be kept, why not grow old elegantly? She said: "Real old age is much more stable. It would be a pity if I want to give up this situation!"
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