Many passionate people must first meet their parents before they get married before they can enter the ceremony. A netizen's brother is getting married recently. My mother-in-law asked her brother to ask her girlfriend a few questions. Unexpectedly, after her brother asked her, her girlfriend was very angry and even wanted to break up, so he wanted to ask the netizen, "Are these questions bad?"
A netizen posted on Dcard's "Marriage Version" that his brother is getting married recently and is looking at the house. The mother asked her brother to ask her girlfriend several questions, including "How much does a girl plan to pay for the house loan in the future? Will she register according to the investment?", "How much deposit does a girl have? Do she have to share the term? Do you want to buy a car?", "If the man pays more, can he leave his mother-in-law's house closer? Does his parents have to pay for money?", "Do you have to have a baby in the future? If so, how much does it cost to live in?", "What level of education do you plan to get your children to receive, choose public or private schools for pre-school education?", "Does your children need their parents to take care of?".
{Unexpectedly, after the original brother Po asked, his girlfriend got angry. She thought she loved her very much. Even if she didn't get married, she even quarreled to break up. This made her brother very helpless, so she wanted to ask netizens, "Are these questions very bad?", which caused many netizens to discuss.
Many netizens believe that these problems are necessary, but the man will not talk about it, which will cause misunderstandings between the woman and her mother-in-law. "From the perspective of a third party, it is indeed a very practical and necessary problem, but if I am a person, I will also explode. The key is your brother's communication method & hellip; I can only say that speaking skills are very important, "In fact, it is necessary to understand. There is no money and no way to go, but if I am a person, I will feel uncomfortable. I think none of these problems should be asked by the man's parents. If a boy discusses with his girlfriend himself It would be better for them to understand their family blueprints in the future. After all, they were talking about their relationship, so there would be less suspicion of each other's problems", "Mom is not too far, but the brother is not dealing with it well. Why should my girlfriend know that it was your mother who asked him to ask? It is best for the two people to discuss these questions before marriage. But there is no need for girls to know that it was your mother who asked her. Some things her boyfriend asked her to ask her and her boyfriend, but it sounds different. Just add a sentence "My mother/My dad asked us …" and the pressure suddenly increases. If they are separated, it is not your mother's fault."
Some netizens think that mothers are too concerned, "I think that all of these must be discussed. Although I have not discussed marriage yet, if I have one day I will also start to explain clearly and explain clearly. This is a question that both parties should have discussed in advance," "I think the woman must answer questions that are directly related to your mother, such as a house loan man The woman pays for the money (assuming that your mother has made money), and the parents of the children can not bring them, and if you don’t answer other questions, you should respect others", "These are things that the two should discuss before the marriage, but they are not things that the mother-in-law should ask in the future", "These feelings are something that your brother and the young couple should discuss before the marriage, and your mother has a lot of questions and my uncle is on low-card warmth, so I feel that I have overscores."